Women Brag About ‘Man-Hating’ At Dinner And Then Admit What Happens When They Get Home

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There’s a trend going around social media where women brag about performatively hating on men before returning home to their loving husbands. “Coming home to my man after spending 2 hours being a certified man hater at dinner with the girls,” reads the caption to one video.

This isn’t surprising. From “the future is female” to “everything a man can do a woman can do bleeding,” the culture is full of demoralizing messages about men.

Under the influence of feminism, equality between the sexes long ago morphed into sameness between the sexes. It became an outright societal faux pas to assert any unique traits between men and women that might mean one sex is better than the other at doing some particular thing or exhibiting some particular trait.

Now, boys are told they are outright useless. As pop star Sabrina Carpenter sings in her hit song “Manchild,” “Baby, what do you call it?/ Stupid?/ Or is it slow?/ Maybe it’s useless?/ But there’s a cuter word for it/ I know/ Manchild!”

To our culture, men are second-rate women. It’s a complete reversal of the most cartoonish sexism of yesterday. Men are seen as less compassionate, less interesting, less emotionally intelligent, and less communicative women. Little time is spent engaging with the many ways in which men tend to possess uniquely strong character and personality traits. We ignore these traits at our own peril; they are absolutely essential for the building of a just society.

Men are anything but useless. They are the most likely to die in wars and the most likely to do dangerous jobs. Over 90% of the most dangerous occupations are filled by men. That includes jobs like logging and construction, some of the most important occupations in the economy. Despite the risk, men keep choosing these types of occupations, ones where they are continually asked to put themselves in danger, often for the sake of another’s life. We should applaud them for it.

As women, we can’t say we want “real men” who are confident and strong providers and then trash the entire sex as sub-rate humans just because they don’t emote like women. We can’t expect boys growing up in this culture to rise to the occasion and become the masculine men we need in society if they grow up being dismissed just for existing.

We must assert that men are valuable in society and have unique capabilities and strengths compared to women, just as women do compared to men. That means we must do something that would make a lot of Western women uncomfortable, even those who wouldn’t necessarily describe themselves as feminist. We have to stop treating female character traits as inherently good and men’s as inherently bad. We have to assert that it is a good thing that men are more aggressive. If compassion and emotional intelligence are important for a cohesive community, then so is a penchant for competitiveness and emotional stoicism.

The caveats here are obvious; a man unable to tell his wife he loves her needs to loosen up a bit. But a woman who emotionally manipulates those around her needs to gain control of her feelings. These are tendencies that beset both sexes uniquely, yet they are often rooted in sex-specific personality characteristics that are in themselves good.

The second thing which we must do as women to assert men’s unique value in society is to admit that we need them. Not only does an individual woman need her individual man, but women as a group need men. Women need men to counterbalance their tendency to let emotions rule them. Women need men to take on the physically demanding labor their bodies cannot accomplish. Women need men’s protection as they carry out the physical bearing of children, from pregnancy to birth to breastfeeding.

If such statements make you uncomfortable, it is likely that you have been influenced more than you realize by the current feminist malaise.

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Sarah Wilder is a wife and mom living on a small homestead in Michigan. She is a cultural commentator and a writer, and her work is regularly published in outlets such as Chronicles Magazine, 1819 News, and American Mind.