Rock Singer Comes Out As Gay And Wife Of 14 Years Reacts

The lead singer of Beartooth, an Ohio-based metalcore band, recently announced that he was gay despite being married to a woman for 14 years. 

Caleb Shomo, 33, declared on social media that he’s “a proudly gay man” after fans speculated on his sexuality. Now his wife, Fleur, has added her perspective to the conversation.

“Not really sure how to start this cause does anything even need to be said? But I guess I’ll just dive right in,” Fleur shared on Instagram Saturday. “The past few months have been a very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate. For both of us. But I will always want to love, protect, and support Caleb. I have cared more about his well being over the years than anything else in the world.”

She continued, “To see the confusion and pain he went through and the highs and lows and wanting to help but not knowing how. You never want anything more for your person than for them to just be ok. You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world & the anger you also feel. …You can love and support your person through the hardest time in their life, whilst also be completely demolished & lose yourself at the same time.”

She confirmed the marriage is “over,” and wrote, “Nobody will know anything about our marriage like we do. And no one can ever truly know what depths of love exist between two people unless they are those people.”

“I already miss it & my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one. And now it’s done,” Fleur said.

This was all in response to Shomo’s original post on Saturday, which said, “There has been a lot of speculation surrounding my personal life as of late and I feel compelled to set the record straight before it affects those I love any further. I am a proudly gay man,” he told his Instagram followers. “This is something I’ve been unpacking and reckoning with in my life for quite some time now. It’s been difficult to navigate the feelings surrounding the subject and figure out what to do with this fact.” 

The post went on, “When it comes to my art/Beartooth, I have always strived to chase who I am in the deepest part of my soul from album to album. As you could gather if you’ve followed the band at all in the earlier years, there are 4 very self deprecating albums about exploring my religious upbringing, depression, self hatred, self loathing, and hopelessness. I am grateful for all these albums, yet feel embarrassed at times that I wouldn’t allow myself to really dig up the roots for so long.”

This was all after Shomo temporarily disabled his Instagram in March following the release of the music video for the Beartooth single “Free,” which featured him wearing a cropped leather jacket and dramatic makeup. 

The rock star left social media after the onslaught of “homophobic” comments he received following the music video’s release.